It takes an average of 5-7 Abusive Explosions until the Victim moves on. (Lecture)
It’s not that easy to just leave according to this statistic. There are a multitude of reasons that victims stay in their abusive relationships, including for children, pets, and being purely manipulated.
One of the most common reasons people both stayed in and left a relationship is for the kids. Carrie Moylan)
According to our guest speaker this week, Carrie Moylan, one of the most common reasons people stay in abusive relationships are to be with and potentially protect the children. On the flip side, the children are one of the primary motivators for finally breaking the abusive cycle.
It’s incredibly dangerous to leave an abuser because the final step in the IPV cycle is to kill her. Over 70 percent of domestic violence murders happen after the victim has ended the relationship. (Tedtalk)
According to Leslie Morgan Steiner, a TedX speaker who was in an abusive relationship, this is one of the many reasons why it is so hard to leave the abuser. Even when a victim thinks he or she is safe, he or she is not. This could be due to many causes, including stalking.
The cost of IPV is estimated at $8.3 billion a year, including medical care, mental health services, and lost productivity in the work place (Tjaden & Thoennes, 2000).
Found in the article “Intimate Partner Violence: A Call for Social Work Action”, IPV is something that is costly to everyone in society in many of the areas listed.
In 1985, according to Straus and his colleagues, 12.1% of wives were victims of their husband’s violence and 11.6% of husbands were victims of their wife’s violence. (Allen, 2010)
This statistic helps to highlight that IPV can affect anyone, not just women and children. While there has been stigma surrounding the idea that men can be victims, according to our guest speaker Carrie Moylan, the stigma has been improved somewhat.